Archive for April, 2012
So When Are You Moving Back to New York?
Posted by One Gay at a Time in Gay Dating on April 9, 2012
Finally, work sent me somewhere fun, and I was taking full advantage. I stayed out in LA, managed to have some fun, and even managed to find myself a pretty great guy, The Navigator, to hit up the beach with. After swinging by his apartment, we agreed we weren’t done hanging out.
We made our way back to my hotel. After we turned off his street, I came to a stoplight. I took the opportunity to reach over and put my hand on his leg. He immediately responded positively to my advances. He reached down and laid his hand on top of mine and gave it a squeeze. We continued to hold hands the entire way back to the hotel.
We made our way to the room, and when we arrived, we quickly got comfortable with each other. We dropped our bags and laid down on the bed. We chatted a bit before he reached over, pulled me in, and we exchanged a long deep passionate kiss. When we finally came back up for air, I said to him, “I’ve been waiting to do that all day long!” He smiled from ear to ear and pulled me right back in for another deep kiss. He was a great kisser — Not just a good kisser, but a great kisser.
Was there anything wrong with this guy? He certainly wasn’t going to make leaving easy on me. I still had to keep myself in check. This thing would have an end. I couldn’t grow too attached, or I would be in for a world of pain.
The thing I liked most about the chemistry between us was how playful we were. There was no drama. We were just having fun. Everything was so easy. We cuddled and talked and tickled and joked. I felt incredibly comfortable with him. We just seemed to be on the same page about everything. He was certainly giving me hope that I could find a guy out there who I just clicked with right off the bat.
All day long, he had been texting with his friend giving him updates on our “date” as he so-called it on the beach. While we laid there he teased his friend about how good-looking I was, but lied and told him I’d just dropped him off at home while I listened on speaker phone. The exchange between the three of us was very comical and flirtatious. He showed me pictures of the guy we were talking to, and we sent pictures of me to his friend. We all had a good laugh, and his friend asked for continued updates.
The kissing slowly turned into making out. The making out evolved into heavy petting. The heavy petting became stripping. The stripping led to oral pleasures. And finally, the oral pleasures led to me learning he is versatile, which of course led to penetration. My provisions weren’t presumptuous at all. I suspect he noticed my condom/lube purchase at CVS, and this is what gave him the courage to propose going back to my hotel room.
The sex wasn’t the most amazing because I was having difficulties with the condom, but it certainly wasn’t bad. We were passionately enjoying each other on many levels.
After we had sex, we laid next to each other talking more. We attempted to take some pictures together to send his friend, but we couldn’t keep our eyes open because the flash was too bright. After our romp in the sheets and copious amounts of cuddling, I was hungry. I remembered an In-and-Out burger down the street. It was 1am, and they were one of the few places still open, so we got dressed and made our way there to grab dinner.
We took our food back to the room and had a picnic in my bed. We talked and made plans to go hiking the following day. The whole night, all I could think about was how crazy it was I even met him. It was even crazier how we both dove in headfirst. He even mentioned being worried I might be a serial killer for the first couple of minutes in the car. After we finished eating, I jokingly confirmed he was staying. He went to his bag and got changed and broke out his toothbrush. It seems he may have been presumptuous as well in packing his bag.
I didn’t care one bit. I was thrilled to be sharing my bed with such a great man. I only wished it was for a longer-term basis…
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Posted by One Gay at a Time in Single Edition on April 6, 2012
Two and a half weeks ago, I wrote a post about The Fresh Diet. A food delivery service for us singles that helps them watch their waistline while freeing up the time we usually spend slaving away in the kitchen making a healthy meal.
In my last post, I told you the food looks amazing. Now, I’m happy to tell you it also tastes amazing! It surpassed all my expectations. I signed up for a week-long trial of the program and am on my fifth day of delivery. I can’t tell you how much I am enjoying this!
Every morning I wake up excited. It’s like Christmas morning every day. There is a lunch bag sitting just outside my apartment door with three fresh, healthy calorie-controlled meals and two decadent snacks cooked fresh daily in state-of-the-art local kitchens. Of course I chose my own menu for the week so I should know what I’m getting, but who can remember what they picked with so many delectable offerings to choose from.
I have to admit, I am someone who loves cooking. I generally find the time to cook and find it relaxing. I make it a priority. But, after having all my food taken care of this week, I have found a benefit I was not expecting. It’s mentally taxing to try to figure out what to make for dinner every night. My life became surprisingly much less stressful this week. I had no idea how much brainpower I wasted just thinking about what to cook and making sure I had everything I needed from the grocery store. Maybe all that stress over trying to come up with something both tasty and healthy wasn’t worth it. For $29.99/day, someone would take care of all that hassle for me.
Like I said last time, The Fresh Diet is not only easy, convenient, and delicious, it also won’t break the bank either. When you break it out, it’s really pretty damn reasonable. Working in New York City, food is very expensive. Even going grocery shopping in the greater metro area can kill your wallet. Now, of course I wouldn’t normally spend $10 on breakfast, but I also wouldn’t be able to find a healthy tasty meal for dinner for $10, so it all balances out. And to top it off, delivery is FREE!
With all my food worries taken care of, I was able to get out of bed at a later time this week because breakfast and lunch were already prepared. All I needed to do was reheat breakfast and pack up lunch to take to work, and after a hard day at work, dinner was waiting in for me the fridge when I got home.
Every night, I would place my empty cooler bag back in the hallway excited by the thought of what it would be filled with in the morning — Always exceptionally pleasant surprises.
The Fresh Diet also helps me keep my calories on track. When I went to their website to pick my meals, apparently one day I was very carb heavy. A warning message popped up encouraging me to make an alternative choice for that meal. Most times I made the switch, but some days the choices just sounded too delicious, so I chose to ignore the advice (Whoopsie!). You can also note the foods you dislike. The Fresh Diet will notify you any time you choose something containing any of these items.

I wasn’t the only one excited by The Fresh Diet. Reading my daily menu became a ritual at work. Coworkers were always curious what I brought in, and I even shared a few bites with them after raving how good the food actually is. “Wow! It’s like those eggs were lightly bathed in some amazing basil oil. That’s good!” one of my coworkers exclaimed after I encouraged her to try a bite of my Whole Wheat Breakfast Bruschetta (I brought breakfast and lunch to work that day). I replied, “And I just popped that in the microwave for two minutes.” She was amazed.
In participating in the diet for a week, I came to realize how many extra calories I was consuming every day above what my daily intake should be. Since the food was portioned out for me, I was able to notice the snacking that was sabotaging my workouts at the gym. It became quite an eye-opening experience. I’m curious after the week to see if I’ve shed any pounds — Fingers crossed.
The Fresh Diet really did get me out of the kitchen so I could manage the more important things in life, like dating. It was the perfect week for The Fresh Diet since I had four dates in five days. It gave me the free time to meet some prospective men and not worry about having to go home and eat Kraft macaroni and cheese.
I can honestly say I fully back The Fresh Diet whole-heartedly. It’s rare for me to get behind something without a word of criticism, but I have to say, I have none. The service is impeccable. When I asked if they could deliver my food to my apartment door and not just my lobby, they accommodated my request. It’s definitely something you should at least try out. I was shocked. And to make things even easier, they’re offering a deal: Receive 3 days free with the purchase of a 31 day plan at $29.99 per day” The promo code is: singlmar29 (You can click on their logo in this post to check it out). I highly recommend you give them a shot. You won’t regret it!
So, if you’re like me and are having a hard time being single and fitting everything in (like finding time to write blog posts and cook a healthy dinner 😉 ), then give The Fresh Diet a shot. They’ll not only take care of your waistline and busy schedule; they’ll also entertain your palate like you’d never expect!
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Posted by One Gay at a Time in Gay Dating on April 3, 2012
After my tryst with the Armenian and the Asian, I decided to order some real dinner. This was the last night I was on the company dollar, so I ordered some room service. While I waited, I chatted with the guy who wanted to come by later in the night. I sat and ate my meal in bed with just the TV to keep me company. I was feeling lonely, which is such a strange emotional state to be in considering I’d just shared one of the most intimate acts with two other men.
When midnight arrived, I started texting my late night snack. I asked him what he thought his E.T.A. would be. He told me it was still up the air, but he was definitely coming by. He was out with friends and would swing by on his way home.
Finally, around 2:00am, he texted he was finding parking and would be by shortly. Ten minutes later, I had a knock at the door, for the third time in a matter of hours.
He was a very nice polite black man who was anxious to spend some time with me. He seemed very young and innocent. We chatted a bit while sitting on the bed before any action began. It was getting late, and as rude as this sounds, I was ready to get it in and go to bed. I wanted a nightcap so I could doze off soundly till the morning.
Warning: The following may be too graphic for some. We had A LOT of foreplay and prep before anything happened. He really wanted to cuddle for a long time before we could even get frisky. I was almost ready to call it quits and ask him to leave. It was getting late, and I was getting tired.
There was a lot of kissing. A lot of heavy petting. A lot of licking and sucking. Finally, he was ready and got into position for me to penetrate him. I could tell this wasn’t a guy who gave it up to just anyone. Normally, I’m really into the foreplay and making out, but I’d already had my engine warmed up earlier that evening. In fact, the car had been taken around the block a few times.
I’d saved my climax for him and quickly learned this was a big mistake. He was very bad. We didn’t go for very long because I really wasn’t getting anything out of it. Finally, I stopped and rolled onto my back. I tossed yet another condom in the trash and started taking care of myself. He laid next to me and asked me to finish on his chest. I obliged his request, and he followed suit shortly after.
I knew he was going to be a lingerer. I tried to cut that off at the pass. I humored him for a short bit of time before I finally spoke up and said how I needed to get to bed. It was past 3:00am. It was time for him to go! He got the hint and got dressed. While he did so, he asked if we could hang out again while I was in town. He told me how much he enjoyed himself. I didn’t shoot him down, but I didn’t exactly give him the answer he was looking for. I told him I’d have to see what my schedule allowed for. I told him I was trying to get the most out of my vacation in L.A.
With that, I said goodbye, shut the door, showered all the men of the night away, and climbed into bed to dream about the sunny sandy beach I would be visiting the following day.
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Posted by One Gay at a Time in Single Edition on April 2, 2012
If you read my blog, you know how unhappy being single makes me. Dating is incredibly difficult and time consuming. I’m constantly scheduling dates after work, including drinks and high calorie meals, and because of this, my waistline suffers. Between work and dating, it’s hard to fit in a workout at the gym on top of trying to find motivation to go in the first place.
Last summer, Hoboken hosted free yoga on the pier once a week. I made my best effort to make it every week and convinced some friends to join me. It was the first time I’d tried yoga, and I kinda fell in love with it. It really helped me find my center. I wanted to do it more often, but I was already paying a gym membership and dues for the masters swim program I belong to at Steven’s Institute. I wasn’t about to throw down more cash. I yearned for a convenient way to do yoga at home. I already had the yoga mat. Now all I needed was an instructor.
That’s where Gaiam TV — The first streaming video subscription service designed to reach those like me who are interested in health, wellness, yoga, fitness and personal development, came in. It’s kinda like Netflix. It offers innovative service and world-class programming, including over 2,000 titles revolving around the topics of health, wellness, yoga and fitness. Gaiam TV delivers hundreds of hours of online yoga, Pilates and cardio classes where viewers can practice with top instructors like Rodney Yee, Seane Corn, Jillian Michaels, Mari Winsor and Kathryn Budig.
The entire library of user-friendly and customizable programming is also available anytime, anywhere — personal computers, iPads and smartphones. The yoga and fitness studios are flexible and simple to use. I can customize my workouts for weight loss, total body sculpting or increased energy and narrow down my options based on level, style, instructor and amount of available time. I can also easily search for videos, make playlists and preview selections and am offered the chance to rate and review titles.
I first tried Gaiam TV the other night while my roommate and his girlfriend drank wine and made dinner. Not the most conducive environment, but this is my life. I changed into workout clothes, threw down my yoga mat on my living room floor and chose a yoga title. I quickly learned how much flexibility I lost, but I have to say, I really enjoyed it. I got to choose when my “class” was scheduled, and it only took a half hour, easily lending itself to part of my routine.
Finally, I found an exercise program for me. I could stream unlimited content for $9.95/month instead of paying yoga studio fees and probably never attending classes. On top of that, subscription to Gaiam TV is no strings attached; there is no commitment, and I can cancel at anytime.
The best part; Gaiam TV offers a Free 10-day Trial, No Strings Attached!
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